For a few years Shay had a kind of mantra she would use earlier than she left the home. It went like this, “Cellphone, purse, keys!” and it’s self-explanatory that she used it to assist be sure she didn’t neglect these necessary gadgets.
Good, proper?
Over the previous few years, nonetheless, since she’s labored with me, she added an additional phrase to her mantra/guidelines – “ease.”
Now she pauses for, “Cellphone, purse, keys, ease.”
Ease is a cue for her to pause and shift her considering and consciousness in a means that predictably helps her really feel extra relaxed. She’s practiced this a lot it comes fairly naturally now.
Including “ease” to her guidelines allows her to pause and have a second of calm that permits her nervous system to be extra regulated as she leaves the home and heads out into the world. It’s turn into a pause apply.
Typically, we rush to get out the door – we’re working behind, or hyper centered on what’s forward, and positively not current to the right here and now. It’s tense. By pausing, not solely to undergo her guidelines, however to have a second of ease, Shay is ready to add somewhat house between herself and that stress, like a buffer, so she doesn’t take that stress – or not as a lot of it – together with her into no matter is subsequent in her day.
Simply saying the phrase “ease” to herself is sufficient for Shay to now expertise a second of aid from stress and pressure.
Is there one thing that you simply do – one thing that solely takes a second or two – that you realize has a predictably useful impact on you? Possibly connecting to your breath or noticing your ft on the bottom? Just a bit one thing to assist carry you to the current second in a useful means in your nervous system.
Shay and I had a variety of enjoyable making this brief video about her pause apply. Get pleasure from!
What do you need to take with you as you head into the world? And what would you favor to go away behind? Why don’t you create your personal pause apply to make use of earlier than you allow the home? What would yours be?
Tell us! You can even make your personal video if you happen to’re feeling courageous – or foolish – sufficient!
Shay Seaborne, CPTSD, is a trauma consciousness educator who companions with me to supply workshops and packages for individuals coping with trauma or persistent stress.
Shay first got here to me as a consumer six years in the past. As Shay studied neurobiology and neuroscience to assist her perceive and resolve PTSD, she more and more understood that my BodyIntelligence work offers a really neuropositive strategy and apply. BodyIntelligence has turn into certainly one of her core sources in serving to her rebuild and assist the regulation her personal nervous system.
As we continued to work collectively, we grew to become good mates, sharing an pleasure over the neuroscience that backs up the straightforward and profound practices of BodyIntelligence and the Alexander Approach ideas and ideas which can be at its core. Out of this was born our work collectively.
Our signature program, Foundations of Regulation, is an interactive six-week on-line course wherein Shay’s expertise as a trauma survivor and her understanding of the neuroscience referring to trauma is paired with sensible instruments and ideas from my BodyIntelligence work.
The following Foundations of Regulation course begins on Could 21. Extra info at: imogenragone.com/foundations-of-regulation
