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Heavy Play And Scars ⋆ Rain DeGrey

Dirty Talk Advice ColumnDirty Talk Advice ColumnNot all BDSM play is over-the-knee spanking and bed room bondage…a few of it may well get fairly heavy. Heavy sufficient to scar and even trigger everlasting injury. There isn’t a proper or fallacious solution to BDSM, so long as it’s consensual for all events concerned and there aren’t regrets down the highway. The Kinky Pool is large and may get relatively deep in some locations, however there’s area for everybody! In case your taste is heavy play and scars, there are others on the market that wish to share these waters with you.

Right now’s column comes courtesy of a reader inquisitive about precisely what heavy play entails and the assorted costs one would possibly pay to swim within the deep finish. As somebody who has achieved some heavy play in my day, and the scars to go along with it, they figured I’d be the individual to ask. If you happen to have been ever curious concerning the bodily and authorized implications of heavy play to the purpose of scarring, that is the column for you!

“I’ve at all times questioned once I see girls getting whipped so laborious they’re bleeding and or have scars or they’ve pins or nails by means of their chest. Do they see a Physician for checkups? What in the event that they get sick or want medical consideration? What do they are saying? How do they clarify their situation to medical personnel? Are legal guidelines being damaged even with consent?”—Heavy Play and Scars

The Worth Of Play

As I sit down to put in writing this column, I’m various everlasting scars I’ve picked up through the years and realizing I’m eminently certified to reply your questions. I nonetheless keep in mind when my physician politely instructed me I wanted to cease getting punched within the face. (I listened btw) Seize the Neosporin and band-aids, I’ve the solutions you search!

Can whipping trigger bleeding and scars? Most definitely. I’ve various whip scars that have been heavy sufficient they took out chunks of my tattoo. Whereas I’ve by no means bothered to get my tattoo touched up, I additionally wouldn’t have achieved these scenes within the first place if I wasn’t comfy with the attainable final result. Consent is vital and makes what we don’t abuse. Hopefully, each single time you’ve seen somebody getting whipped laborious sufficient to bleed or scar, they have been totally consenting to what was taking place to them.

Scars Can Occur

Whereas I’ve by no means had pins or nails by means of my breasts, I do know that folks have interaction in such play all the time. I’ve seen various individuals do such issues and never have any scars in any respect afterward. Our bodies differ vastly in how they reply to issues and there’s no assure you’re going to stroll away from one thing scarred or completely broken. I’ve definitely been whipped a lot more durable than the scenes that left me with scars and there weren’t any everlasting marks. Outcomes are random like that.

Pins by means of breast tissue are often going to heal with none scarring, nails have a a lot increased probability of leaving marks, however so long as somebody needs to nail their breasts to a board and it makes them completely satisfied, I’m not going to get of their means. The whippings I’ve acquired that scarred me by no means required any medical consideration…they simply scabbed over and when the scabs fell off there was a scar beneath. The ensuing scars haven’t bothered me to the purpose that I sought to get my tattoos repaired, I merely think about them a part of my private journey.

I’ve wanted medical consideration a couple of instances for play gone fallacious, as accidents do occur. In each case, I at all times totally disclosed all the pieces. I’ve by no means had any points from disclosing, and I’d by no means suggest withholding information in a medical state of affairs. Medical personnel are there that can assist you! Not giving them full particulars is just going to make it more durable for them to do their job. Belief me, they’ve seen all the pieces 5 instances over after which some. When my physician instructed me I wanted to cease getting punched within the face for enjoyable, I made a decision to comply with their recommendation.

Authorized Implications

The place issues get extra complicated is almost about legal guidelines being damaged. Regardless of how a lot all people consents, we’re nonetheless hitting and marking one another. And that’s the place issues can get very tough. Heavy play and scars are a grey space at finest and will undoubtedly be thought of unlawful, relying on the place you’re. If somebody does heavy play and regrets it if they’ve scars, marks, or bruises? They’re carrying proof on them that could possibly be used towards the person who inflicted it.

No one needs to be attempting to clarify to the police how the everlasting scars they left on somebody have been consensual on the time, and that the individual receiving them modified how they felt about them after the actual fact. That’s going to be a clumsy and tough dialog that isn’t more likely to go effectively. I very a lot think about heavy play and scarring to be extraordinarily Superior Play and I urge individuals to method it with warning. Be extraordinarily positive that everyone is on board and no one goes to alter their thoughts down the highway. Don’t rush into such issues. The deep finish of the kinky pool is sort of deep certainly.

We get into kink as a result of we’re searching for new issues and wish to add some spice to our lives. Generally that spice has everlasting after-effects. Add the seasoning that you just want however add it with care otherwise you would possibly find yourself with some critical heartburn…or a messed-up tattoo. I don’t remorse my journey, and I’ve discovered rather a lot alongside the best way, however the waters I swim in aren’t for everybody. And the way boring the world can be if we have been all the identical!

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